So, we hear this a lot:
“I have to ask my husband if I can…”
We understand about financial stuff when buying stuff, we do that. But, we hear girls tell us they have to ask their whatever if they can work, go out with friends, whatever and anything…even watch their own kids. Hmmm.
Seems more like an ownership than a partnership, me thinks.
That way of thinking’s archaic.
But, J, it’s in the bible: “Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.”
Any relationship whether friendship, boyfriend/girlfriend, or marriage’s a partnership. Nobody’s over the other. What’s good for him is good for her.
Nowadays, it almost always takes both to work just to make it. The days of barefoot and preggers are over. Still, we hear variants of that mentality from people that come through here. What we get out of hearing that is these cavemen want to keep their women stupid to manage them better. Who doesn’t want to see their better half better themselves?
Not letting your girls go out with her friends seems like trust issues to me. I understand if you had a bad relationship by cheating, I’ve been there. It took me a while to trust Joey through no fault of her own. You got to get over it if the relationship’s to survive. If you’re just a control freak, get over yourself.
Joey’s got a chick, whose old man won’t watch the kids while her chick takes care of Joey. She’s also the type that has to ask him if she can work, but I digress.
Dude, your kids weren’t made by immaculate conception, grow some balls and step up while your girl does her thing. I’m pretty sure she’s working to help the fam, you can step up.
Just an observation.
Be good to each other.